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Jess Nichol

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Death Penalty

Age 18-25

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Jess Nichol

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Death Penalty

Age 18-25

Harm to Healing

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The most honest room I know is in a prison

And they’re learning to mediate conflict: with each other, on the yard, and even with staff and Correctional Officers.

To get in, they have to have already done real accountability work for the harm they caused. This isn’t where that work happens. It’s what comes after.

These incarcerated men are often more emotionally honest than people I know on the outside.

What they train in is presence, curiosity, deep listening, and the hardest skill of all: how to mediate a conflict with no agenda for how it should turn out.

That takes real courage. You don't know how it's going to go. You have to trust the process, and trust the people in front of you, more than your own instinct to fix the issue.

For a lot of these men, learning these skills is enormous — many ended up incarcerated because of poor impulse control, and here they're building the opposite: self-awareness, restraint, the ability to hold space instead of react. Watching that shift happen, on purpose, again and again, feels like a miracle.

There are ripple effects

Some of these men, once released, go on to work as professional mediators — the same skills they built inside, now keeping other people's disputes out of a courtroom.

Some come home and facilitate restorative circles for their neighbors, doing for their communities what they first practiced doing for each other.

These guys live with the people they're mediating for, sometimes for years. If it goes badly, they see each other again tomorrow. Confidentiality matters a lot. And sometimes it's not just conflict between each other — sometimes they're mediating with correctional officers and staff, and that comes with real power dynamics. When we brought professional mediators from the outside in to see this work, they said flat out: this is unheard of in their world.

Some return to the program itself — not as participants, but as teachers, passing the skill on to the next group of men coming up behind them.

This is systems-level healing work. One circle at a time.

Jess Nichol

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The most honest room I know is in a prison

And they’re learning to mediate conflict: with each other, on the yard, and even with staff and Correctional Officers.

To get in, they have to have already done real accountability work for the harm they caused. This isn’t where that work happens. It’s what comes after.

These incarcerated men are often more emotionally honest than people I know on the outside.

What they train in is presence, curiosity, deep listening, and the hardest skill of all: how to mediate a conflict with no agenda for how it should turn out.

That takes real courage. You don't know how it's going to go. You have to trust the process, and trust the people in front of you, more than your own instinct to fix the issue.

There are ripple effects

They become mediators in the court system

They bring it home to their own communities.

They mediate high-stakes conflicts inside prison

They come back to teach the next guys

This is systems-level healing work. One circle at a time.

Jess Nichol